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Actually, I allowed you to hurt me- A hard hitting poem

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We allow people to hurt us. We have a choice to stop it but for whatever shitty reason we don’t stop it.
We have the power, option or choice to fight back, to stop it yet sometimes we just allow it to happen.
And this poem is dedicated to each and every person that, like me, allows people to hurt them. And I am here, to tell you to recognise your power and stop it.
You deserve better.
Hope you like this poem! Comment below what you think of it! 😉
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The truth is I allowed you to hurt me
Not just you
I allowed everyone to put me down
I allowed people to control me
In the name of love
I allowed people to make me cry tears
behind closed door
You know,
so that they don’t feel bad for harming me
I allowed this
Because somewhere down below
Under the sheet of bravery and strength
I thought I deserved it
I believed I deserved to be in pain
I thought I deserved to cry 
But I didn’t.

I never did.
But it’s okay,
Now I know
Now I know that
I deserved so much more
I allowed you to hurt me. Poetry, poem
I have tasted the mud on the ground
So I am ready to fly above the sky
And the fact that I know
I won’t ever allow you or them
to hurt me again
Takes away your power over me
And helps me sleep well at night.

41 responses to “Actually, I allowed you to hurt me- A hard hitting poem”

  1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
    Moushmi Radhanpara

    I agree completely. Every such person deserves better!

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  2. buddhagoestowashington Avatar
    buddhagoestowashington

    Having been the giver of such hidden tears, and facing it after many years, this poem bites deep. Imagining my wife weeping inside behind the walls she built so I could no longer hurt her…Since my apologies fall
    On deaf ears to her, let me say I’m sorry for your pain, and hopefully no longer sleeps, as I do not, regret eating away from within.

    Reply
  3. Mirageofagirl Avatar
    Mirageofagirl

    Really loved this poem !! Yes i too allowed someone to hurt me but the thing is i never realized that i was being hurt … i mean that i was afraid of losing that person so i told myself that whatever he is doing should make me happy and that i should never cry even though it hurts so much . Your poem evoked true memories. Your an extremely talented writer . Glad to have met you !!

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Yes! That was a part of my experience too. Its nice that I was able to make you relate to a memory through it. Thank you so much for telling me that. And thank you for finding my tiny writing place! 💖 Have a great day!

      Reply
  4. ravendude Avatar
    ravendude

    “Cherubs must build walls to shield themselves from cupid’s arrows,” I once wrote. Your pain is all too real, a very visceral poem. Thank you for sharing!!

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  5. Sweta Avatar
    Sweta

    Wow Jade, love this poem. 👌❤ xxx

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Thank you so very much! I am so glad you liked it 💖

      Reply
  6. postsocialacceptance Avatar
    postsocialacceptance

    wow, this is so deep and beautiful, brilliant work!!!

    Reply
  7. I write therefore I am alive. Avatar
    I write therefore I am alive.

    You replied to this comment.

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Thank you so much!

      Reply
  8. 21stCenturyCatholic Avatar
    21stCenturyCatholic

    A beautiful, empowering poem.

    Just the kind that I needed to read.

    Reply
    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      So glad you liked it 💖 Thank you for reading! Cheers!

      Reply
      1. 21stCenturyCatholic Avatar
        21stCenturyCatholic

        You’re welcome! And cheers to you too. 🙂

        Your writing is great. I look forward to reading more of it.

      2. jade0207 Avatar
        jade0207

        Awww thank you so much! I really liked your work too! It is really fun to read the little tidbits of yours life! Keep going! 🙂

      3. 21stCenturyCatholic Avatar
        21stCenturyCatholic

        You’re welcome!

        And thank you for reading my writing. I’m glad you like it. 🙂

        I will keep going.

      4. jade0207 Avatar
        jade0207

        Please do !

      5. 21stCenturyCatholic Avatar
        21stCenturyCatholic

        I will. 🙂

        I just have to do a better job of making time to read others’ posts.

  9. vogelstand Avatar
    vogelstand

    This is amazing. I got shivers reading this. I understand the message you want to convey… And from a writer to a writer, I think you write very well!

    Reply
    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Your comment just made my day. Nothing can be compared to a writer appreciating your work. Thank you so much. I am so very glad you liked it (and got shivers xD) Thank you so much!

      Reply
  10. LeeratowM Avatar
    LeeratowM

    The part where you talk about crying in silence so we don’t make them feel like they are hurting us. It’s too deep.

    We protect people from realizing that they are hurting us. We don’t want to hurt them with our hurt so we die in silence. We protect them even though they won’t protect us.

    Really liked this beautiful piece

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Someone picked it up! and you got the point of that line perfectly. Sometimes we dont even realise it but we try protecting others from knowing they hurt us. Humans are silly creatures huh.

      Thank you for reading it. I am really glad you liked it.

      Reply
  11. epiphanyofsumi Avatar
    epiphanyofsumi

    It’s wonderful and has got really strong emotions expressed in words.

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Thank you so much. So glad you like it.

      Reply
  12. manishchander Avatar
    manishchander

    where’s the Like button ??

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Down, towards the right.

      Reply
  13. Kae Bucher Avatar
    Kae Bucher

    Ok… this is spot on amazing !…

    Reply
  14. geeteuphonyofpoetsemotions Avatar
    geeteuphonyofpoetsemotions

    I simply loved this…. <3

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Thank you!

      Reply
  15. EternalEmpress Avatar
    EternalEmpress

    This is beautiful. Throughout my life, I’ve been hurt many times by strangers, friends, and even best friends. This poem captures the essence of my emotions during the ordeals and speaks to me in a way that I’m very surprised about.

    Reply
  16. crimsonshadow11 Avatar
    crimsonshadow11

    Makes u power uhh less or powerless without them be happy

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      You need to be powerful on your own

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      1. crimsonshadow11 Avatar
        crimsonshadow11

        True

  17. thoughtsnlifeblog Avatar
    thoughtsnlifeblog

    I would nit have agreed with this a few years ago when i was younger.. but now i get it after doing much inner work i get how we can allow stuff , even manifest it,invite or it is a result of past karma.

    Great post

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Same. It has been a recent acceptance of how I do allow things to happen. Thank you so much for reading. Really appreciate it.

      Reply
      1. thoughtsnlifeblog Avatar
        thoughtsnlifeblog

        Welcome

      2. jade0207 Avatar
        jade0207

        💖💖💖

  18. viveksoni95 Avatar
    viveksoni95

    This has become common a issue in youth nowadays. May be, we should try flipping the coin and get in the shoes of others. May be, we a moment of introspection.
    May be……..
    There is a famous uncertainity principle. Metaphoric to that, you will never be able to get everything in life.

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      What I talk about here is the fact that sometimes we allow people to hurt us. Maybe it’s because we trust them or love them. Maybe we can’t get everything in life, true but we do have the power to…I believe I can get anything I want if I work for it. The only problem with us is the fact that we don’t want to struggle. Yet that doesn’t mean we should allow people to hurt us in the name of success. We have the power to stop that too.

      Reply
  19. SumitOfficial Avatar
    SumitOfficial

    Beautiful poem. We should never give the keys of our happiness to anyone. 🙂

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    1. jade0207 Avatar
      jade0207

      Completely true. That was precisely what I wanted to convey through this poem. Thank you for stopping by and commenting!

      Reply
      1. SumitOfficial Avatar
        SumitOfficial

        😊😊

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